Walk This Way: What We Need More Of

Cross-posted on Postmodern Woman Why is it so damn hard for mainstream non-monogamy to conceive of relationships that aren’t monogamy +? Even for those for whom poly is their orientation rather than the result of a transition often fall into the same traps. It’s so much more common to claim ownership of a person rather […]

Mask: Sick Woman Theory

You already know of my experience with an ever-growing list of illnesses. I grok this so hard. “There are two failures here, though. The first is her reliance on a “public” – which requires a private, a binary between visible and invisible space. This meant that whatever takes place in private is not political. So, […]

Rapists Explain Themselves on Reddit, and We Should Listen

This makes my stomach curl. I will not go to Reddit itself. But this is important. And in the book Unloved and Untamed you get to explicitly see why a rapist does what he does. It’s a discussion that echoes throughout the #cuilverse in many ways. It’s something that’s missing from so much “rape porn” […]