What the Cuil?

1. The Cuilverse History:

I first happened upon cuil theory when a friend posted a link to a video by Roy Kelly that made me laugh harder than anything I’ve ever experienced. If you appreciate cuil theory you might enjoy my stories employing it.

And now a beautiful quote that sums up why I write about painful and weird subjects:

Cass: I think the message is Self Acceptance. In everything we’ve done together, and I think a lot of what we did before we met, it was about letting your freak flag fly and finding a space where other people like you can also be unique, original, honest, real. You know, there’s a rebellious streak in that, I don’t think that life is as it seems in the Gap commercial. I think the Gap commercial people have french kissed each other and stuck their fingers up their butts when no ones looking and they are real, real people with real feelings, and I feel like the world is increasingly fake and airbrushed and filtered. I think the more that we can do as individuals to create space for people to be authentic- and so often that equates to weird even though I personally think EVERYBODY’s weird, on the inside- I think that creating space for that and creating examples of that automatically liberates others, like in that wonderful Marianne WIlliamson quote:

“As we are liberated from our own fear,
Our presence automatically liberates others.”

I began writing to save myself, to explore the world, and to deconstruct everything I could think of. My stories incorporate elements from many different genres. This introduces some difficulty in pinning down which is the most relevant. However I believe the term cuil fiction (I made that I’ll myself) describes it perfectly. Each different book series is a different level of cuil. Each level of cuil is one step further removed from reality. Imagine the experiments and play this opens up in writing! I will write about each series and its cuil level much like I’m picking a song for each of my characters. I will explain how far removed from reality it is and then write an overview of each series.

What makes cuil theory a perfect tool for my writing is that it is integral to the story line itself. The Black Tree series is the trunk of a tree of interconnected works. This also means it has a higher cuil level because it is at the nexus of the event that split the universe. The further away a series is on the tree the lower its cuil level. It’s farther away from the crack in the universe. The closer a series is to the cuil event the higher the level of weirdness. This is why there isn’t much out there like my writing. Though it may seem like many random events occur in each book there is a method to this madness. If all this sounds interesting to you please feel free to check out my books. I currently have over 50 left to publish and a number of others to write so wish me luck. This writing project is one that may take my entire life to finish. In so many ways it is my life. I do have books and plans for books that are not included in The Cuil Effect project but those will come later.

What Exactly is Cuil Fiction?

The name of integrated works that stem from The Black Tree series is called The Cuil Effect. Why? Because cuil theory is fantastic and absurdand yet still ties together just like life.

Just as intersectional feminism acknowledges and branches out from the reality that systems of oppression, privilege, and power dynamics are integrated, so does cuil fiction acknowledge this facet about life, the universe, and everything within literature.

Cuil Levels:

A cuil level is assigned to each work. These range from level one to level seven. Each level is progressively further removed from reality as we know it. Cuil Levels are from 1-6 and in ascending order for the amount of craziness/presence of surreality/ratio of queer/disabled/POC to straight/cis/able-bodied people. And Level 0 is downright bizarre and uncomfortable for everyone, including me.

Then there is level zero, which is so far removed it actually circles around and reflects reality and cuil reality. In general, the higher the cuil level the more absurd, impossible, and insane the events. Basically, it’s like the books are ranked from realistic fiction to anime-level creativity and insanity.

What the hell does that mean?

Basically, cuil fiction is intersectional fiction. That means stories about intersex, POC, pansexual, women, gender variant, ace, aromantic, autistic, disabled, kinky people and all others normally marginalized, ignored, or misrepresented in media are centered without explanation or angst.

2. Introducing Sinister Press:

If you’re interested in learning how to write Cuil, you can hire me as a speaker through Everyday Feminism and/or check out Sinister Press (which I apparently need to now add Cuil to because there’s another publisher with that name now. Sniffle).

Content criteria:

Michon is putting out their Chthulu-like feelers for content that they deem worthy of the title cuil.

What Michon, Gentleman Goddess of Cuil Content, wants:

Give Michon your baudiest, your queerest, your sexiest, your smartest, your marginalized, your destruction of the status quo. They want to see romance based on communication and compatibility. They want to see Black and indigenous main characters.

Show the Gentleman Goddess real BDSM, biologically-accurate erotica, and truly ethical polyamory and not that abusive shit they keep trying to shove down our throats. Show relationships based on trust and friendships that matter more than romance.

Ze doesn’t want the facets of a person to be larger than the story itself. Ze want it to be part of the story but not the main focus. The characters should all primarily be dynamic. Ze wants to see them interact with the world and exercise agency, rather than being slaves to “destiny” or plot.

Important note: Michon is a minority of minorities and as such is a stickler for accuracy, research, and authenticity. If you do not belong to the marginalized group you are writing about – or even if you are – and if you are writing about subject matter that requires some accuracy (history, biology, mental disorders, disability, any of the sciences, etc.), know your shit. Michon will judge how realistic and logical the story and decisions are, even if the background is fantastical. Ze is sick of characters doing things for no reason).

Ze will accept most genres but prefers sci fi/fantasy, horror, speculative, bizarro, erotica, and absurdist fiction. Ze is partial to unique takes on classics like vampires, werewolves, fairy tales, shitty goddes, aliens, and alternate history.

What Michon abhors:

The Gentleman Goddess doesn’t want to see normal, contrived crap. If you’ve got some typical love story, some sci fi/fantasy that focuses more on world-building than on the realistic portrayal of the inhabitants responses to their world, send it elsewhere.

3. Want a Cuil Reading?

Not sure if your diverse characters are cutouts or dynamic? Hire me to do a cuil sensitivity reading. As a minority of minorities, I can certainly provide some insight into whether your story/ies will fall flat or resonate with the populations you’re writing about.

Why Choose Me?

There’s a very good chance I’m one of the oddest people you’ll ever come across. I’ve had a highly unusual life and tend to fall into the most marginalized categories of both identities and experiences.

Who Am I?

Since I appreciate full disclosure, I’m letting it all out in the open: I’m Black (with Irish and Cherokee thrown in to fuck things up further), autistic, aromantic, noetisexual (a new term coined by yours truly), demisexual/asexual (though not a celibate one), polyamorous, Relationship Anarchist, autodidact, relationship fluid (an invention of Louisa’s), disabled, single parent, in poverty, kinky switch/Dom/me, assigned female at birth, synesthetic (most notably visual/touch), intersex, genderqueer, Army brat, survivor of several forms of abuse, left-handed, singleish, and pansexual.

What Have I Experienced?

My disabilities and health conditions consist of endometriosis, Polycystic Ovarian Syndrome, Premenstrual Dysphoric Disorder, fibromyalgia, eczema, secondary anxiety and depression. I’ve lived in severe poverty for my entire life, including prior, some recent and likely impending homelessness. I’ve had several major surgeries, survived more rapes than I can count, and narrowly escaped stalkers, domestic violence, and murderers. I’ve been writing cuil fiction, my invented intersectional queer and poly genre, for over 16 years. I raise my children non-traditionally with my sister. I’m also a not-quite widow; within months of one another I lost both a former female partner and a current male partner.

What Do I Know?

I attended many schools, majoring in areas as diverse as Drama, Instrumental Music, Choir, Dance, Aviation Maintenance, Teaching and Technology, Brain and Mind Studies (which includes an in-depth integrated approach to the different disciplines dealing with, well, the mind), Women Gender and Sexuality Studies, Objectivism.

Of course, that’s only my education on paper; since the age of 12 or so I’ve also been a voracious self-taught student of history, sexuality, religions, cosmology, philosophy, math, technology; anything that caught my fancy.

I spend the majority of my time presently engaging in fleshing out the many corners of the cuilverse (the fictional, intersectional world of my queer, poly characters), writing for Harlot Magazine or Postmodern Woman, and providing content for groups such as Intersectional Non-Monogamy (another invention of mine) and a few others of intersectional focus. I’m also a contributor, transcriptionist, social media associate, and speaker for Everyday Feminism; offering a number of courses of varying topics I both have personal and educational experience with.

4. Want to Meet Me?

Hire me to cuil things up at your event, class, or convention here or here.

List of courses:

  • Intersectional Non-Monogamy – Go beyond turning jealousy into compersion by learning to conduct truly ethical relationships in a diverse world. Non-monogamy is so much more than simply overcoming jealousy, spicing up a dulled relationship, and disastrous first relationships. Discover the role history and culture plays in the relationship choices we make. Come to appreciate the hidden power dynamics that leave most practitioners regurgitating monogamous standards in their open relationships. The history and possibilities for non-monogamy go far beyond what you’ll typically find in the literature and media. Get a deeper understanding of true diversity across various spectrums from someone who is a minority of minorities. Here you’ll find relevant articles, videos, and even examples in excerpts from The Cuil Effect Project; accurate information about sex, trauma, abuse, diversity, and health; and learn the true meaning of ethical non-monogamy. If you’re looking for something truly ethical and transformative in your relationships or activism then come along as we explore a depth of love, sex, race, variation, and non-monogamy you’ll rarely find anywhere else. Best done as a series but a brief introductory presentation can be given.
  • How to Write Cuil – This course explores a new way to write about relationships, sex, consent, and sexual diversity in fiction that is sexy, real, and unexpectedly surprising. I want to show that communication, sex, kink, and erotica doesn’t have to be cheap, meaningless, or contrived to be engaging, uplifting, and arousing. There is so little healthy, thorough information on these subjects out there; especially in fiction (even those that purport to deal with polyamory, kink, or queer topics are rather limited in scope). Each series in The Cuil Effect Project has a different style and highlights different aspects of sexuality, traumatic experiences, and vulnerability. They all compare and contrast healthy and unhealthy relationships, reactions, and states of mind. They are tales of growth, acceptance, and integration. They are meant to be parts of a whole so the more you read the more the overall themes will make sense. Many of the themes (sexuality, kink, sex positivity, polyamory, and LGBTQIA+ matters) are ever-present fixtures in the books. And virtually every single relationship depicted is non-normative. Best done as a series but a brief introductory presentation can be given.
  • The Forgotten Queers – This course explores all of the identities that get left out. Normally, everything other than gay and lesbian is highly misunderstood, erased, and generally invisible. Learn about aromantics, asexuals, demisexuals, kinksters, intersex, and other non-clear cut queers, identities, and sexualities. Can be lengthened or shortened according to particular interest and needs.
  • The Invisibility of Disability – This talk highlights the realities of disabilities, taking from personal experience, medical facts and practices, drug laws, and more. The realities of living with disability, getting assistance, and relationships and sex will all be discussed. Strip away the layers of ableism that keep invisible illnesses on the margins, even within the disabled community. Can be lengthened or shortened according to particular interest and needs.
  • Aro Eros Arrows – Concentrates on toxic dating culture, amatonormativity, rape culture, and other relationship and intimacy concerns through the lens of aromanticism. Next to asexuality, this is one of the most widely misinterpreted identities. Explore the realities of this orientation, the types of relationships that are healthiest, and the value of friendship. This will draw from and expand upon material in the upcoming book of the same name. Can be lengthened or shortened according to particular interest and needs.
  • The Actual Sexual Spectrum – There is a vast amount of misinformation out there concerning the biology and experience of sex. This course fills in the holes in traditional sex education, with a focus on breaking down the myth of sexual dimorphism, teaching correct anatomy and function, and being inclusive of queer and intersex bodies and experiences. Learn about and discuss practices that are commonly dismissed and/or unavailable to most. The possibilities are closer to endless than proscribed. Can be lengthened or shortened according to particular interest and needs.
  • Parental/Caregiver Privilege: There’s one relationship above all others that we humans rarely get to choose or easily escape. One which forms most of our values, preferences, and sense of self yet it’s also one of the least examined and critiqued. While parenting advice abounds, there is very little research done on infant mental health. While the ACEs research has grown in popularity, in general the advice given to children of abusive or toxic parents is to make amends. Behavior that would be considered toxic and abusive in any other context – financial control, emotional manipulation, power over where one goes and what one eats, control over housing, and on and on – is often overlooked. People are expected to grow and heal from their various childhood traumas. They’re still heavily expected to care for toxic and abusive family members. This course uncovers the most common forms parental/caregiver privilege comes in. This privilege does not just extend to the caregivers themselves, but also to those who grew up with positive parental influences and thus cannot understand the choice to cut contact with parental figures.
  • Ally In Action: This is the in-person version of an online course designed to give allies the tools and resources to become better accomplices. It is meant to take the pressure off of marginalized people in the role of education. It empowers the ally to become more than that, to become a turncoat, an accomplice, someone who can get down in the trenches. It will give clear steps for maintaining one’s mental and emotional health, tools for figuring out the maximum effective form of allyship in a given situation, and resources one can use to research intersectional feminist issues. It’s easy to get frustrated with only being referred to Google and it can be hard to know which source’s viewpoint to take on a given issue, but putting the pressure on the marginalized to teach you burns everyone out. By taking this course/workshop, you’ll be able to apply critical thinking, better research skills, and most importantly learn when it’s appropriate to give space to marginalized people. So stop bothering your marginalized friends and get yourself ready!

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