If any of you are gamers or there, you may be familiar with the term “rage quitting.” For those of you who don’t know, this is done when a person quits a match (in a video game) because they are losing. They get angry and they quit. When they are playing online against other people, it can result in everyone being kicked off the hosting console. They then have to start all over again, hopefully with different players. There are many videos mocking the rage quitter on Youtube and the like. There is one place, however, where rage quitters exist and not many seem to mind.
This is real life, and many people rage quit every day. Whenever something doesn’t go their way they give up. At the first sign of a challenge they retreat. The most common depiction of success is that gained by fortune, by fate, by God, by anything other than human agency. The problem with this is that good things in life become random, we are left coveting what another has and hoping that they lose it so we can gain it, and fulfilling work becomes arduous. The biggest tragedy is that those that push forward, those who understand that true success is a process, those who acknowledge that agency is what leads to fulfillment are usually the ones who find gold.
See, that second group of people are the ones willing to dig into the dirt and grime. They are willing to look at the dust inside of their mind and explore until they find diamonds and gold. The mind reflects the outer world; it has caves, earth, oceans, and more. It has buried metals, treasures, and beauty. Yet the mind is one of the most widely ignored assets in this culture. We are told all the time to look outside at the expense of the inside which results in materialism at the expense of value, objectivication instead of self-worth, and mere existence instead of quality of life.
The rage-quitters are the ones sounding the loudest voice in our culture. They pervade tv shows, books, songs, and media attention. The rage-quitter encourages us to give up as well, to waste life waiting for everything to fall in place, to never dig deep enough into our own mind to uncover the riches within.
Those who manage to break off this habit are free to find treasures. The mind may be covered in the dust of everyday thoughts yet underneath the surface there are ancient temples of creativity. There are sinkholes and avalanches of negative emotions and bad memories yet just around the curve of the mountain there are caves of love and rivers of healing. How do I know this? It’s what I found.
I dug through the layers of my mind. I dug through the hungering topsoil. I dug through the clay of painful memories. I fell into the underground mama chamber of self-defeating thoughts. I uncovered an ocean of unending love. I dug out pure diamond caves of creative ideas. I found a sky full of stars that lit my path to healing.
I discovered blueprints for the tools I needed to change the landscape. I became more productive. I became more compassionate. I sharpened my ability to reason. I opened up the chest of my self-worth and found it boundless. The urge to rage-quit, the automatic desire to take the “easy way out”, the mind-numbing action of shutting down just wasn’t there. I felt light as wings took me to the heights of my creativity, I knew freedom from the burden of memory and other’s opinions, I grew roots in reality, I rounded out my rough edges as I learned and loved myself.
This is the same thing that happened to the greats, to those who quietly and simply make their lives grand, to those whose effects stretch across time. I can only dream about making even a fraction as much difference. I can hope and do my best to help others in their own process. Please don’t rage quit. Dig deeper. Buried beneath the ugliest, most dangerous parts of yourself I bet there is a much larger world that is pure and open and fantastic. Evan Sanders said that “the brighter the light the darker the shadow”. There’s a reason that those who’ve been through the hardest end up finding or creating the best.
The darkness doesn’t necessarily have to be personal or painful or damaging. Sometimes darkness can mean the work you put in, the many times you fail, or the time you miss doing fun things. Darkness isn’t a bad negative, rather it’s the cost of whatever it is you want to do. I’ll go more into that in another entry.
When you see rage-quitting either in yourself or another find out if you need to dig deeper. Pick at it until it is just rubble. Find the nugget of gold that lies hidden: a truth, an asset, a different thought.