Knowing your “No”s

A wonderful and illuminating post surrounding consent. Psychological effects and states are are often left out of discussions of sexuality and intimacy, leaving many open to attack or injury. It’s important to take things as slowly as you need to in order to truly see where the boundaries lie. Clear communication and awareness are key to navigating intimate spaces with others. When we can pay attention to ourselves and see others as they actually are it lessens the damage we can do.

Polysingleish

The first word I ever said, was “No”, and it’s a word that I have been contemplating a lot recently.

traffic-light-1024_159700kI’m finding myself moving into a space of exploring my Dom side- and I am hyper aware of the fact that not everyone feels comfortable all the time with saying No. Since I am seriously contemplating kinky things that would certainly not be everyone’s cup of tea, I want to make sure that whoever I do anything like this with is confident in their ability to express their boundaries- both ahead of time, and during any kind of play session.

As a woman, I was raised with the idea that only men could be rapists, and also that all men wanted sex. As an assertive woman, I found myself pushing things far beyond consent on several occasions before I ever heard male friends tell me their stories of being assaulted-…

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