Kaleidoscopes of Chaos – How Traumatic Boundary Violations Destroy The Capacity for Self-Care » The Art of Healing Trauma

I’m not sure why my sense of self always remained strong, even when powerless. But that’s the key difference between myself and many other survivors. My sense of my boundaries (and any hint of violation) was always on a hair trigger: my house, my fences, my alarms are all set at the atomic level. Yet, […]

Why Do So Many Incompetent Men Become Leaders?

Oh, would you look at that! Another way in which I beat the curve. The most effective groups in the cuilverse are led by women and/or those who are humble and competent rather than narcissistic and ignorantly confident. “In sum, there is no denying that women’s path to leadership positions is paved with many barriers […]

My Blissful Escape: How I Defied Terrible Odds

*Notes: 1. Cross-posted from Postmodern Woman. 2.For all of you too afraid to share yesterday’s post or those who simply don’t understand it, fret not. Today’s post isn’t about race but about humanity. And maybe it’ll provide you with the context you need to translate my other posts this week. Thank you for reading. I […]

The Lowest Common Denominator

Entertainment is currently geared toward the lowest common denominator. The worst, the ugliest, the most inhumane. The more disgusting, the most idiotic, the more twisted is what gets play. Dollars are pouring in for the emotionally stunted, the downright abusive, the utterly weak. People salivate over the inane fights, delight in misunderstandings, and cheer when […]

5 Signs You’re Trapped In An Irrational Relationship (And How To Fix It)

They wanted the effect without the right cause. The Law Of Causality Unhappiness is the result of believing you deserve something you have not earned. Life is much simpler than most people want you to believe. You do x and you get y. That’s it. It’s a simple math equation. The problem is the average […]

21 Ways Rich People Think Differently Than Average People – The Roosevelts

I don’t think I’ve ever written about money or anything. I usually avoid contentious contemporary topics because I prefer to let time and reality stand as they will. People will always have their opinions on things and engaging in any of the passing issues of one day or another doesn’t fit into my schedule. I’m […]

Integrated Living Part Six: Clear Your Cache

Having anxiety sucks. Having a shitty past sucks. All of these random, useless, and destructive thoughts come crawling out of the dark and begin taking over like a damn cancer. There are worries about completely harmless situations devolving into one of those “holy shit” moments you’ve become so well-acquainted with. There are the panic attacks […]