Kaleidoscopes of Chaos – How Traumatic Boundary Violations Destroy The Capacity for Self-Care » The Art of Healing Trauma

I’m not sure why my sense of self always remained strong, even when powerless. But that’s the key difference between myself and many other survivors. My sense of my boundaries (and any hint of violation) was always on a hair trigger: my house, my fences, my alarms are all set at the atomic level. Yet, […]

No such thing as “normal”

Originally posted on days like crazy paving:
Let me tell you something about normality. Normal is a construct invented by the privileged to pathologise non-conformity. Normal is a reason to keep you out of a space because you’re too brown, too female, too queer, too trans, not binary enough, not able-bodied enough, not rich enough, not…

Tempered Schism

Whilst suffering mild anxiety and weariness from my PCOS last night, I had something click for me. I was out at a poly meetup and despite how odd and disconnected I was feeling, I loved being there. The people were wonderful and kind, my partner was thoughtful and caring, and that magical creativity burst forth […]

My New Obsession

Ah ha ha! I just found a wonderful new hole to fall into. Yes yes must explore, must flesh it out, must, absolutely must, write about it to truly delve into the experience of it. I always knew I was weird. Now I have found more edges of my mind to slide past in effort […]

Universal Appeal

Lately, the voices in my head have been shouting, screaming, cajoling, and bickering. Since I’ve written very little this year while I concentrate on publishing each character has decided to pop up at inopportune moments to pester me about when I’ll visit them again. I tell them to shush to no avail; they come back […]

Integrated Living Part Four: The Human Napkin

One of the saddest realizations I ever had was learning how much I had let myself be worn down by others. I was the invisible child. Literally, no one ever knew where I was or what I was up to. The only time people acknowledged me was to note how intelligent I was or to […]

Five Books and Characters

I now have five books published! Whew, it’s a lot of work but it’s so amazing. The BTS universe is spinning around in my head. My focus is solely on completing publication. It moves my stories further from me but it will also represent my victory over my past. I include some fairly personal information […]