Kaleidoscopes of Chaos – How Traumatic Boundary Violations Destroy The Capacity for Self-Care » The Art of Healing Trauma

I’m not sure why my sense of self always remained strong, even when powerless. But that’s the key difference between myself and many other survivors. My sense of my boundaries (and any hint of violation) was always on a hair trigger: my house, my fences, my alarms are all set at the atomic level. Yet, […]

How to Have Sex With an Asexual Person | Prismatic Entanglements

Or a demi aro with a history of sexual abuse (like me) or anyone. Period. Personally, I think if you’re trying to convince someone to have sex you’ve already fucked up. And especially for aros, sex-spectrum, and aces nothing that turns us off faster than someone wanting to have sex with us, rather than wanting […]

5 Things I Learned Committing A Campus Sexual Assault | Cracked.com

I’m glad they’re writing about this. We need better solutions and not empty rhetoric or punishment. Even as a survivor of more instances than I can remember I can understand this is so much more conplex and that the solution needs to dig deeper. It’s easy to be reactionary. But we won’t put a stop […]

Carnegie Mellon Students Create Interactive Graphic Novel To Teach How To Stop Sexual Assault

I’ve begun playing through this interactive novel to test it for accuracy and realism. I’ve only been through two scenarios so far. Even though it may not cover every situation and also might be starting way too late (I think we should have something like this for younger kids as well; it starts early-it did […]