Walk This Way: What We Need More Of

Cross-posted on Postmodern Woman Why is it so damn hard for mainstream non-monogamy to conceive of relationships that aren’t monogamy +? Even for those for whom poly is their orientation rather than the result of a transition often fall into the same traps. It’s so much more common to claim ownership of a person rather […]

My Blissful Escape: How I Defied Terrible Odds

*Notes: 1. Cross-posted from Postmodern Woman. 2.For all of you too afraid to share yesterday’s post or those who simply don’t understand it, fret not. Today’s post isn’t about race but about humanity. And maybe it’ll provide you with the context you need to translate my other posts this week. Thank you for reading. I […]

5 Signs You’re Trapped In An Irrational Relationship (And How To Fix It)

They wanted the effect without the right cause. The Law Of Causality Unhappiness is the result of believing you deserve something you have not earned. Life is much simpler than most people want you to believe. You do x and you get y. That’s it. It’s a simple math equation. The problem is the average […]

No such thing as “normal”

Originally posted on days like crazy paving:
Let me tell you something about normality. Normal is a construct invented by the privileged to pathologise non-conformity. Normal is a reason to keep you out of a space because you’re too brown, too female, too queer, too trans, not binary enough, not able-bodied enough, not rich enough, not…

Smashwords Read an Ebook Week

The first two books in the Allison Dutch series and The Black Tree series are still free. Now every other book in each series is half off. “What a savings,” as the guy from Galaxy Quest once said. Anyway, it’s a good opportunity to catch up on each series so far. The last few Black […]

Tempered Schism

Whilst suffering mild anxiety and weariness from my PCOS last night, I had something click for me. I was out at a poly meetup and despite how odd and disconnected I was feeling, I loved being there. The people were wonderful and kind, my partner was thoughtful and caring, and that magical creativity burst forth […]

Integrated Living Series Part Three: The Home in Your Head

People often want really nice homes. They dream of setting it up, adding personal touches, and maybe even having a family fill it up. Yet there’s another home each one of us had that we forget about. It’s the one in our head. No matter what, the brain is an inescapable part of our lives. […]

It’s a rough start but at least people are starting to actually study how and why people form the relationships they do. However, some parts of this were painful to read. There is still dyadic embedded language; they assume CNM is something that only couples decide to do, instead of individual people coming to that conclusion on their own. I also found it really weird that they focused on gay men, overall it was reminiscent of assumptions about bisexuals. It’s a good try, but there is such a long way to go. Final assessment: meh. A critical examination of popular assumptions about the benefits and outcomes of monogamous relationships | Amy C. Moors – Academia.edu

http://www.academia.edu/1986155/A_critical_examination_of_popular_assumptions_about_the_benefits_and_outcomes_of_monogamous_relationships

Integrated Living: Introduction

Humans tend to have this strange habit of walking around each day and chopping their life into bits. They chop others’ lives into bits, too, at any opportunity. We have this natural ability to categorize, organize, and analyze yet issues arise when this is applied improperly. When we try to measure other people or ourselves […]