My Blissful Escape: How I Defied Terrible Odds

*Notes: 1. Cross-posted from Postmodern Woman. 2.For all of you too afraid to share yesterday’s post or those who simply don’t understand it, fret not. Today’s post isn’t about race but about humanity. And maybe it’ll provide you with the context you need to translate my other posts this week. Thank you for reading. I […]

The Lowest Common Denominator

Entertainment is currently geared toward the lowest common denominator. The worst, the ugliest, the most inhumane. The more disgusting, the most idiotic, the more twisted is what gets play. Dollars are pouring in for the emotionally stunted, the downright abusive, the utterly weak. People salivate over the inane fights, delight in misunderstandings, and cheer when […]

5 Signs You’re Trapped In An Irrational Relationship (And How To Fix It)

They wanted the effect without the right cause. The Law Of Causality Unhappiness is the result of believing you deserve something you have not earned. Life is much simpler than most people want you to believe. You do x and you get y. That’s it. It’s a simple math equation. The problem is the average […]

A Different Way To Write: Cuilly

I don’t write stories about generalizations. My characters aren’t plot devices to move the tale to its most exciting point. My word-flow isn’t flowery for no reason or hurriedly written down in order to fill up white space. I don’t have to force any character into a situation that doesn’t ring true for their actual […]

4 Ways Parents Teach Kids that Consent Doesn’t Matter — Everyday Feminism

I love this. I’ve already practiced or set into practice the first three. I hadn’t heard of the touching-the-shoulder thing to help kids wait. That’s something I’ll try out with my little one. Consent is so important and it needs to learned from a young age. Learning about how consent should happen and how it […]

No such thing as “normal”

Originally posted on days like crazy paving:
Let me tell you something about normality. Normal is a construct invented by the privileged to pathologise non-conformity. Normal is a reason to keep you out of a space because you’re too brown, too female, too queer, too trans, not binary enough, not able-bodied enough, not rich enough, not…