My Blissful Escape: How I Defied Terrible Odds

*Notes: 1. Cross-posted from Postmodern Woman. 2.For all of you too afraid to share yesterday’s post or those who simply don’t understand it, fret not. Today’s post isn’t about race but about humanity. And maybe it’ll provide you with the context you need to translate my other posts this week. Thank you for reading. I […]

The Lowest Common Denominator

Entertainment is currently geared toward the lowest common denominator. The worst, the ugliest, the most inhumane. The more disgusting, the most idiotic, the more twisted is what gets play. Dollars are pouring in for the emotionally stunted, the downright abusive, the utterly weak. People salivate over the inane fights, delight in misunderstandings, and cheer when […]

5 Signs You’re Trapped In An Irrational Relationship (And How To Fix It)

They wanted the effect without the right cause. The Law Of Causality Unhappiness is the result of believing you deserve something you have not earned. Life is much simpler than most people want you to believe. You do x and you get y. That’s it. It’s a simple math equation. The problem is the average […]

A Different Way To Write: Cuilly

I don’t write stories about generalizations. My characters aren’t plot devices to move the tale to its most exciting point. My word-flow isn’t flowery for no reason or hurriedly written down in order to fill up white space. I don’t have to force any character into a situation that doesn’t ring true for their actual […]

4 Ways Parents Teach Kids that Consent Doesn’t Matter — Everyday Feminism

I love this. I’ve already practiced or set into practice the first three. I hadn’t heard of the touching-the-shoulder thing to help kids wait. That’s something I’ll try out with my little one. Consent is so important and it needs to learned from a young age. Learning about how consent should happen and how it […]

No such thing as “normal”

Originally posted on days like crazy paving:
Let me tell you something about normality. Normal is a construct invented by the privileged to pathologise non-conformity. Normal is a reason to keep you out of a space because you’re too brown, too female, too queer, too trans, not binary enough, not able-bodied enough, not rich enough, not…

Smashwords Read an Ebook Week

The first two books in the Allison Dutch series and The Black Tree series are still free. Now every other book in each series is half off. “What a savings,” as the guy from Galaxy Quest once said. Anyway, it’s a good opportunity to catch up on each series so far. The last few Black […]

Tempered Schism

Whilst suffering mild anxiety and weariness from my PCOS last night, I had something click for me. I was out at a poly meetup and despite how odd and disconnected I was feeling, I loved being there. The people were wonderful and kind, my partner was thoughtful and caring, and that magical creativity burst forth […]

Integrated Living: Introduction

Humans tend to have this strange habit of walking around each day and chopping their life into bits. They chop others’ lives into bits, too, at any opportunity. We have this natural ability to categorize, organize, and analyze yet issues arise when this is applied improperly. When we try to measure other people or ourselves […]